FAQ

 

 

"Can you tell me about the appointment?"

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No. If you don't get what FBSM is without talking about it, contact someone else. Anything you say about the content of the appointment means a block. Don't do it. Don't use euphemisms as if euphemisms are some clever insider way to avoid the obvious (prosecutable) fact that you're trying to solicit prostitution (yes, every time you ask someone for a "happy ending" or "finish" you're soliciting prostitution, and if you watch any reverse sting on COPS you'll see it's TALKING that men are arrested for). Schedule a time, and then..... STOP. TALKING. I'm tired of booking appointments, getting all the way through screening, reserving an incall close to you for you, editing my ads and site around the visit for you...  and then after I say "See you then!" you keep adding extra "oh by the way" words until I have no choice but to cancel. Say less, not more. As in all things, I don't care how much "the other girls" are chattering. "The other girls" don't have their mugshot in a headline yet out of pure dumb luck, not the smart choices they're making.

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"Why are you so much more than the local girls?"

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The monthly overhead for a local provider: $1200/mo rent. $0-400/mo car. Groceries to cook at home.

The monthly overhead for a touring provider (I tour 365 days a year): $4000/mo hotel. $1000/mo rental car (you can't drive a personal vehicle over endless distance endlessly). Every meal eaten out (unless I want to boil some water on a camp stove).

Ever gone on vacation or trip anywhere? Then you should know.

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"What do I call you?"

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V is fine. If you want my full name it's all over my testimonials page. I love clients who read my website.

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"Where are you located?"

"Are you available?"

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As a touring provider ("I thought you were local" guys - you'll pick a city from a drop down menu of about 50 cities on my contact form, so pretty strong hint I'm never local) I'll look at properties in the area that best accommodate the first clients who commit to scheduling rather than those who just jangle my unmonitored burner number with "hey babe where are you". This is consistent with how I also bend over backwards to ensure clients who, again, take the time to actually screen get the time they want. In other words, where I am and when I'm available is largely up to you. It's about you seeming reliable and focused on just me and a good enough bet for an often all day drive before I arrive and risk my own very limited funds on an incall. I'll book a stay and schedule the time you need after you reach out with real info, because the cart has to be before the horse. Nobody goes on a business trip only to hope they get business after they get there. On the other hand I've driven (not flown) literally 2000+ miles for a reliable client. I wouldn't pay money to post an ad if I weren't trying to be available, so yes, for the love of god, I'm available. I work 365 days a year. I'm always available somewhere. I'm not a flake. I actually work. And if I post in your city (don't just write about random cities but cities you actually see my ad in please) I'm trying to be available then and there. Hence the ad. Exactly where and when are up to you.

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"Last time was great and I'd love to see you again, but can we do more this time?"

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I don't "get to know you better" over repeat visits. There are clients I've known literally for decades who don't push my boundaries, then there are guys I've seen once before who think on their second visit that the secret sex option has been unlocked. I offer FBSM. I offer FBSM on the first visit, the second visit, and the thousandth visit. If I wanted to offer full service, rather than following the utterly moronic pattern that timid, not particularly bright locally based LMT you knew that time did, I would simply advertise full service. Do I really seem coy and indirect? Or like someone who, if a thing was available, would have a whole website describing it in vivid detail? I travel full time at thousands of dollars of expense every month. If I offered a thing I would say I offered that thing.

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"Can you wear a garter belt and stockings?"

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I'm not a full service provider. Stockings go with heels. A woman in heels cannot stand next to a massage table for 60-90 minutes bearing down deeply into your muscles for a massage I've already described as therapeutic plus sensual (the word "therapeutic" there isn't filler or a euphemism but a literal description of what I actually do). I can't have the physical flow I need for the athletic pursuit of giving deep tissue massage. If you don't understand what I do that's fine, just contact an escort or another garden variety "rub" girl. I giv

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"What's your coronavirus protocol?"

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I started paying close attention to the coming pandemic in January. I've followed all news about transmission since then, and in March when the rest of the country finally realized we needed to "temporarily" shut down for 2 weeks, I went camping. Unfortunately when I came back to town the clients who showed up often bragged about how they were cheating social distancing at businesses that had secretly stayed open, or explained to me how the virus was "just a hoax". Fortunately despite how little regard some clients have shown for my health, I've gotten through this year feeling physically well, and now I hear less and less lately that it's not serious. But my priority since day one has been taking not only my own health seriously but the health of my clients and the people my clients go home to.

 

I've scrupulously disinfected all surfaces all year, kept my appointment volume at a bare minimum (bargains mean high volume, something to think about if you're bargain shopping). Unlike a therapist working in a spa I'm not going to expose you to lobbies, table shower rooms, hallways, and ventilation systems recirculating air throughout common areas with other staff and customers (that's how SARS spread in 2003). I try to get rooms that have their own self-contained HVAC systems and direct access to the outside and fresh air. Most cases now are being spread by exposure to groups in places that people have normalized such as gyms (I haven't been inside one since January), restaurants, churches, etc. Even at a hair salon you'd be exposed to not only your stylist but other stylists and guests. With me it's just me. There's no such thing as a zero risk guarantee during covid, and because only half the country cooperated with social distancing we're now living with it long-term. That being said you'd be hard pressed to find another provider who's more socially distant in all things, aware and knowledgeable about the virus, and concerned about others. If you schedule with me please be the kind of person who also cares about others, and don't see me if you have any kind of fever or symptoms, thanks.

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"Is there an ATM in your lobby?"

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Please don't drive past a dozen banks on the way to my hotel just so you can walk in and, during a pandemic when occupancy is way down no less, stand in full view of the staff taking out money immediately before you come up to see me. I can't believe this even needs to be said, but almost everything on this site is here because it's already happened, so here we are.

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"Can we..."

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I offer what I offer, nothing else. Please don't come to see me planning to negotiate, coerce, or pressure me for something else. Please don't spontaneously decide during the appointment to negotiate, coerce, or pressure me for something else. There are unlimited options for you to schedule "full service" elsewhere, but you probably won't get quality massage with a trained therapist with those options. I'm not trying to serve or reach the majority of the market (the majority of whom only value full service). I'm trying to reach the few who don't want someone misrepresenting their massage training just to sell a full service appointment or add more options they're not really all that great at. If you're happy with being weakly wiped with cold lube or cheap lotion or oil rather than capably massaged by a real therapist, I'm overqualified for garden variety "rub" expectations, sorry. The fact that providers who have no massage training have "supplemented" their lack of training with "full service" so you don't notice they're unskilled at actual massage doesn't somehow mean I'm now left wanting by comparison (to people who are less skilled and trained than me) and thus owe the public "full service". What I provide isn't escort minus but massage plus. I offer the sensual extra you wish you could get along with a therapeutic massage. I'm not a glass half empty but one of the best massages you'll ever have. FBSM clients are few in number, but then again a real FBSM provider is rare, too. A certified therapist who went to school because she was naturally touch intelligent and not just someone who saw a "go to school for massage and make your own hours" ad is even more rare. I'm an idiot savant of touch, drawn since early adulthood to not only manipulate the body but to other tactile pursuits such as woodworking and pottery, and I won't sell myself short and pretend I'm not as uniquely talented as I am or genuinely love touch as much as I do.

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"Do you have reviews?"

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The very first review board, TER, was built by a man named Dave Elms. Feel free to Google "TER Dave Elms". You'll find he eventually went to prison while trying to flee the country with a trunk full of weapons and drugs and was prosecuted for having tried to hire hit men to kill providers who'd displeased him by not giving him the free sexual services he regularly extorted in exchange for him not ruining their livelihoods on his own board. In other words, the first review board sprang from the mind of a literal sociopath creating a tool with which to manipulate, pressure, and coerce SWers. Many guys have finally realized only recently since following providers on social media that review culture is toxic and misogynistic in the extreme. This would have come as a surprise to no one if they'd followed the evolution of review boards or at any point listened to me for mamy years saying on my various websites exactly what they're only learning and repeating now. The misogyny was never a bug but a feature.

 

TER from day one for instance allowed a 1-10 scoring system for "full service" (with the highest numbers reserved for unsafe "bareback" type services, meaning FS providers were pressured for that too) but made the scoring system for FBSM 1-7. The phrase "just massage" isn't common parlance for no reason. What I offer has been minimized and denigrated since review boards first came into existence. And every review board since TER exists because of TER, so the mindset will always be the same no matter how much anyone tells themselves theirs is the "good" board. Someone argued with me just today that boards he used to think were fun and respectful had "changed" into a toxic cesspool. People simply refuse to believe things were always bad but they lacked the discernment or empathy to see it.

 

And no, it isn't about "hiding" from "bad reviews". If you try to compliment me on a chat board/forum type of review site (someone I've actually met will always do so in every thread), all you'll succeed in doing is driving an initial wave of "will she or won't she" full service curiosity seekers to my door (typically also "coronavirus is a hoax" types), and your compliment will quickly be met by responses such as "Lol, for just massage? What a cuck. For that much I expect bareback creampie." I don't want to reach that crowd. I don't want my street address or private contact info I trusted you with put in front of that crowd. I will take the information you share with me to the grave (unless you're a genuine abuser, and thankfully I don't have much experience meeting truly dangerous clients). You cannot expect me to keep your info private while splashing my info onto message boards without even letting me know you plan to do so beforehand/asking if I'm ok with it. If you'd like to post short ***G RATED*** reviews of me on RubRatings and RubRatings alone (by "g rated" I mean not just explicit words left out but also euphemisms like "finish"), please do. I enable reviews on every RR ad of mine because I get to choose that instead of having it chosen for me. Please don't discuss me on a board where there'll be a conversation with a page full of "bros" and I'm not looped in and have to find it myself on Google. Please don't review me anywhere I, a victim of multiple years of being stalked/my home broken into/my pets and belongings stolen by a dangerous ex (I still live on the road thanks to that stalker - I know everyone wants to know why there's no "home base"), am not free to delete my ad/info in the event of a very real privacy emergency. I've had to change my website and name multiple times and stop visiting several cities because despite years of me saying I want nothing to do with these sites men discuss me on them anyway, always with the same predictable pattern I described above. "Good reviews" on these websites harm me. If I'm "hiding", I'm hiding from literally everyone who frequents those boards. I can't "rip off" or disappoint anyone if I simply want no interaction with them at all.

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"That was great! Now that I have your phone number can I text whenever?"

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You'll be entrusted with my phone number for the purpose of calling or texting when you arrive for our appointment. My phone number isn't for "when will you be back in town" or any other unexpected ringing and pinging. I follow a strict rule of never calling or texting clients out of the blue. You should do the same as, yet again, discretion is a two-way street. It doesn't matter if you're single and more free to use your phone. At any given moment I could be with people who don't know or need to know my business. I could be sleeping, working out, or just trying to take some time for myself. Your unexpected text could come at any kind of moment that's awkward, indiscreet, or even dangerous for me (for instance if I glance at the screen while driving, something I do multiple hours each week). All future appointments are by contact form. If you'd like to chat I'm on Twitter.

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"When will you be back in..."

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As I said above, the majority of the adult industry is "full service". That means the mentality in the industry is defined by the majority. That majority, which at my level are $500 an hour and up, have created the idea of a typical lifestyle in which things like "fly me to you" routinely happen. The idea of requesting a FS provider to come to your location typically involves a plan to spend several hours if not days together and will almost certainly net her 1K if not much more for her trouble, from clients likely also lavishing her with gifts and tips and dinners and shopping and covering her travel expenses (typically a quick airline turnaround so whole days of her life aren't spent unglamorously driving hundreds or thousands of miles like I do). Spoiling FS providers but not FBSM providers is part of the whole "just massage" industry mindset, so I do not live a spoiled designer lifestyle but one of real grinding work and tiny margins I barely eke out. FMTY bears no resemblance to my situation at all, where guys think nothing of encouraging me to, again, drive a car all the way to their location (and back) even when I'm openly advertised as being 2,500 miles away, all so they can book one 60-90 minute massage once I arrive. That simply doesn't cover what I go through. Even worse, there've been a number of times I've made a trip based on this kind of request only to be told once I arrive that "something came up", so in the end no appointment at all. And no compensation. Just me out days of my life, hotels I had to pay for along the way in addition to another room once I arrived, gas, rental car, etc.

 

Please please PLEASE stop asking me when I'll be back. Backpage was seized in 2018. Now there's a pandemic. FBSM was already niche/low volume before all that happened. You can't possibly live up to the responsibility of me traversing the country for your one appointment unless you're willing to send an amount similar to a FS provider (without pressuring me for FS as again that's not what I offer, and never will). I don't see that happening ever, and even if it did I'm not comfortable with payment processors as chargebacks are becoming distressingly common amongst SWers I follow online, and I'm not particularly comfortable with large amounts as that creates a sense of heightened expectation/obligation. So please stop asking when I'll be back to cities. I often don't know where I'll be when I wake up most mornings, so I cannot possibly tell you where I'll be in days or weeks. If you want to see me and I'm in your area, please don't "next time" me. See me now. Life is tenuous and short. We don't live in the future. We live in the now. Now is all we're guaranteed.

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"I see your info differs depending on..."

"Am I grandfathered in?"

"Last time..."

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My gallery page says in garish print that I'll have no version of "payment" conversation whatsoever, overtly, peripherally, euphemistically, just absolutely none for any reason ever. In addition to that my contact form requires you to not only check "agree" to that but manually write in a word (sorry, but guys were routinely checking "agree" without actually reading what they were agreeing to). After all that there is just absolutely no excuse for not getting this. I've gone over and above by multiple degrees to make it obvious this isn't nuanced but a very straightforward dealbreaker.

 

There's a reason my info is what it currently is, and that reason as described above includes years of being encouraged to cross the country only to be left holding the bag with no appointment after spending my last dime on gas and hotels (I coasted into Denver on fumes a year or so ago with literally two copper pennies left to my name after paying for the as commonly expected upscale hotel room, unable to even use a vending machine, only to hear "sorry something came up" from the guy I'd driven there for). You can say a lot of things about me, but one thing you can't say is that I exaggerate. So if I say "last dime" I mean literally one small silver colored coin. I'm friendly, honest, and I genuinely care about people and making them feel good. I deserve much better than nothing. My info is what it currently is because that's what it takes for me to even get to where you are. I'm not comparable to the "local girls" no matter where you are, because I pay what they pay for a whole month's rent every few days. People shouldn't work (and work hard because real massage is real physical work) every waking hour every day of the year for nothing. You don't pay for the opportunity to work then net nothing. Don't be the rich jerk on vacation who haggles down a basket weaver he could easily afford to give that extra dollar to just because he needs a "win". If I lived in a fixed location like the "local girls" and simply did outcalls to your house with no hotel or travel expense, things would be different. But even if I do outcall in your city I've already paid to drive crosscountry to get there, and I still have to pay for my hotel room each day even if you never come to it. If you've never spared a moment to consider the true cost of a provider touring, just remember how much literally any vacation you've ever taken cost. I face that cost each and every day. People who genuinely work aren't trying to "get over" on you. If you respect an actual work ethic and empathize with the astronomical cost of touring, you're even free to tip (voluntarily after the fact with no expectation as a tip isn't the same as a fee, and it isn't given for "extras"). Tips are never expected but always welcome, especially given I often share very well to do clients with FS providers who earn $500/hr and up, and while they'd be drinking wine and running down the clock for a good portion of your time I'm actually working the entire time.

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